How to recognise fake friends

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You always meet friends that you think will be in your life forever, but what happens when they suddenly turn their back on you? You start overthinking everything that you've ever done as to why they just mugged you over. Only to realise that it wasn't you but it was them. 

Now over the years, I've had some bad friendship circumstances where I've had to stop and think about why I'm actually still talking to them. I'm sure everyone's had to deal with that at some point.. if not then please tell me your secrets. 

Here's my list of ways to recognise fake friends. 

1. You always make the effort with them. If you don't start the conversation then there basically won't be one. I'm not saying to talk 24/7 but everyone has a bit of gossip in there life to share.
2. They never invite you out to places. One time they would've done but now they decide to choose someone else and you're left sitting at home with a tea & Netflix (thats the real winner tbh). 
3. They call everyone their best friend. Like, no. There's a rule you're only allowed one best friend don't be so greedy. Does anyone else get jealous when someone you call your best friend, calls someone else their best friend? 
4. Not getting you presents. When it comes to Christmas/Birthday you think of the best presents to buy them, and they just come back with "sorry I forgot yours".. basically a nice way of saying that you aren't getting one.
5. They don't like all your photos on Instagram. This is another rule that everyone should know. All your friends should go and like it as soon as you post them, no exceptions!
6. They don't support you. If you're doing something you love and are achieving amazing things, then your friends should be at your side sending positive vibes your way. If they're getting jealous that you're doing better than them then they aren't the friends you need in your life. 
7. Ignoring messages. This is the absolute worst. There's always those friends who are constantly on their phones, yet when you message them they never seem to reply. However, if they need your help you're always there to message back in 0.5 seconds. It works both ways. 
8. Slagging you of behind your back. I always wonder what my friends say about me to other people who don't know me hoping it's amazing compliments. There can be friends though who are slagging you off at any opportunity and end up stabbing you in the back.. so be careful who you trust.
9. Two-faced. I never understand this one really. When someone says they hate someone and forever moaning about them, yet next thing you see they're walking around shopping with them. (This can relate to point 8) 
10. Lie. This can be about a number of things, but lets say about clothes. I swear if I know I look awful in something, I want my friend to tell me. I'm not looking awful just for you to look amazing in all the photos next to me I am not being that friend!! 

So, there's my list of representations anyway what I say is, less friends = less drama. 

Rules to Post-Dating

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Should there be rules for after dating communication?

Now, I’m not saying I’ve had loads of dates but I’ve had a fair share of bad ones. I’m literally so picky and lads just need to tick all the right boxes.. i mean everyone feels the same way, right? But what I never understand is when you’ve finished dating someone and they’re still on the scene like they don’t escape, do you still have to try and be civil with them or can you just ignore them for all of eternity? 

Is it just me who seems to just go on dates and if you aren’t liking them do you ignore them and hope they get the message rather than replying saying you absolutely hated it and just want to forget that moment in your life. I mean, most of the time I even go on dates is just if there’s food involved.. I do pay for my share of the bill I’m not THAT heartless. I feel like this is just the less awkward way to go around the situation, rather than texting them and then having to kinda feel sorry about the situation when you’re really just dragging it out when you both know you aren't going to talk anyway.

What I never understand is, when you’ve been seeing someone and you find out they was seeing someone else at the same time (is that still classed as cheating when you weren't together) well anyway, I don’t see why they still follow your social media and like everything. I know what girls are like and i don’t particularly fancy being roasted in a group chat just because someones boyfriend is going around liking my photos, like you’re the one that technically cheated it’s your loss *sassy hair flick*.

Now, let’s get past the whole dating scene and go into being in a relationship. Say you’re in a ‘long term relationship’. How are you meant to act after that time being with someone, I swear there needs to be a handbook for this (if there is someone please link me). Do you just have to heartbreakingly delete every photo out of your phone and social media, block them off of everything.. I mean surely thats for the actual worst case scenario? But if you ever saw them in person, how do you act around someone that you loved & possibly someone you thought you’d be with for the rest of your life. 

Me personally, would just probably go into awkward turtle mode and start bashing on about Corrie or something as if it was the most normal conversation to have with your ex in the middle of the Asda at 2pm. I’ve luckily never been in this situation so can’t really give an actual answer of how I think it should be resolved, but I have a feeling that this must be the most awkward situation or if you’re in a movie you just get back together.. I wish everything was a movie how easy would that make life??

If you have been through any of these solutions, I would love to know about them. Feel free to leave them in the comments below!